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If you want to spin your wheels but not go very far as a leader, leading with insecurity is the key.

If we are honest, we all deal with insecurity now and then. Maybe it’s about your looks, your job performance, a relationship, or lots of other things. If you want to spin your wheels but not go very far as a leader, leading with insecurity is the key. Nurture those insecurities and protect them at all costs. Here are some tips how:

1. When you fail, refuse to admit it.

2. Get defensive whenever you are questioned. 

3. Find your identity in your ministry, job or position.

3. Keep a safe distance from people and don’t let anyone get too close. (In other words, avoid vulnerability at all costs.)

4. Surround yourself with people who aren’t as skilled as you are. After all, you don’t want to be shown up.

5. Don’t share the spotlight. Put yourself out front.

6. Try to control others. This will ensure you keep your position.

7. Ignore conflict. (After all, if you handle delicate issues, someone might not like you.)

8. Never leave a mirror. Be overly concerned about the way you look. Then show yourself to the world as much as possible.

9. Ask for cooperation but make sure you benefit from it.

Of course, I’m being sarcastic. We should each learn to recognize the signs of insecurity in our lives. Remember that insecurity will keep you from going the full distance God intends for you to go. The secret to dealing with insecurity? See yourself like God does and do everything for His glory, not your own.

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Cor. 10:31 ESV).   

Ryan Frank, a veteran in children’s ministry, has served as a children's pastor for fifteen years. Ryan and his wife Beth are leaders of KidzMatter and publishers of K! Magazine. Ryan is also the Vice President of Innovation at Awana. The Franks reside in Converse, Indiana, with their two daughters, Luci and Londyn.

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