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Should Christian mothers stay home to be holy and are working mothers disobeying the Lord?

A few months ago, I listened as a wise woman shared her practices of mothering with a group. She was helpful to me, a younger mother trying to figure out this still-new life.

But then she said something I haven’t been able to shake for months.

Her bright daughter, probably a pre-teen, had confided she wanted to become a neurosurgeon when she grew up. This struck me because it was my dream as a teenager, and had I only ever been encouraged to pursue it. 

And her mother’s response was: “Well, honey, those are good aspirations. But remember your first priority as a Christian woman will be staying home for your husband and children.”

Is this right? Is this biblical?

Are modern mothers who seek to follow Christ destined to be homemakers if they are following the will of God?

Are working mothers disobeying the Lord?

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There are enough “mommy wars” going on today, and I think this question has been a major contributor. The passage (in addition to Proverbs 31) that “homemakers-only” usually run to for back-up is Titus 2:3-5 :

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands,so that no one will malign the word of God.

But here’s the problem with using this passage to claim all mothers should stay home 100 percent of the time.

This Titus passage is speaking to Christians in a Hellenistic society—where the divisions of workplace and home that we have today were not the norm. Men hammered metal right outside their houses. They worked their fields—often with their women and children right beside them.

Aubry Smith Aubry Smith is a freelance writer and a stay-at-home mom to her two sons. She and her husband live in North Carolina.

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  • David, Bulawayo, Zimbabwe

    Thank you for this article. Having dealt with mothers for a number of years, the Scripture comes to mind that there is now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus Moms who stay at home need to be applauded. Moms who go to work for whatever reason need to be appreciated and affirmed. Many mothers can’t afford to be stay at home moms. If we could just be free to let people be what God wants them to be, life would be so much better.

    • http://www.facebook.com/c.scordino Christine Scordino

      David, we are free…Free to Obey the word of God. Because of the blood of Christ…we no longer have to go against God’s plan. We can trust Him…His plan as stated in scripture is for wives to be at home caring for & serving…their husbands, children and physical home…thats just the way it is. Our sin, causes us to leave, not God.

  • Mystified

    Women are the property of men for most of the Bible. By the end of the New Testament they have gotten equality only in the spirit (in Christ), the same as slaves. Notice that that does not make any difference in the real world for the slaves or the women since slaves have to obey their masters and women have to obey their husbands. The Bible was written by men from a man’s perspective, so is it any wonder that women get the short end of the stick?
    Women are trying to worship and please a God that has unfair commandments for women and they know themselves that this isn’t right. In the Old Testament in some cases, a man could rape a woman and based on the laws given by God, she had to marry her rapist if he paid her father so many shekels. God even puts a monetary value on men and women in the Old Testament and guess what, he values women at 30 shekels and men are valued at almost twice as much, 50 shekels. Then in the New Testament women are told they are not to teach or have authority over a man, and to be silent and ask their husbands if they need to know something. Now within modern Christianity women are still being treated as second class Christians otherwise this article would not have been written. Women are still being given the guilt trip for going to work. I am a man, and I can see how unfair this is.

    • Scott Dossett

      And this is one of many reasons I think (please note, this is simply my opinion) we have to be very careful in the way we approach scripture. It is not simply a convenience market for appropriating morally upright cultural norms regardless of whether they are culturally applicable. It is the testimony – over history – of God’s grace, love and mercy acting in specific times. cultures and lives of individuals and groups. It also happens to contain many solid, good ethical boundaries (and a few not-so-solid ones) as well as the fundamental element in defining ethical boundaries: the example of God’s selfless love. It is our authority, no argument. But I fear people approach it wrongly as a “constitution” or legal document for Christians.

      • Bernhard Muenchsdorfer.

        All you fans of Legalism_you are wrong. St. Paul cautions us to use our Liberty as Christ’s Ambassadors tto not offend any person’s Consience.The holy Spirit continuies to move bbbut is to often blocked by the Gerry Falwell’s and Pat Robertson’s who are cacerous to the Body of Christ.(The first newsletter I got after I joined the 700 Club was all about fighting communisim in our countfy with no mertion of Jesus at all. I quit. I was a lobbyist for right to life and when I discovered mostRight to Lifer’s were for the death penalty, I quit that to). The american Church has benn double-minded since the Mayflower arrived. Early churhgoers were forced to use The Geneva Bible because the King James version was “too liberal”. If a little girl wants to be a nerousergion, encourage her to do that without throwinng legalistic misinterpretations at her out of context. Bernhard H. Muenchsdorfer.

  • ron

    We do have to acknowledge that our society has changed for the worse since mothers have hired out their duties.

    • Scott Dossett

      Can you show a direct correlation between working mothers and the negative change in society? Isn’t it more likely – as with every other cultural decline in history – that this one has more to do with opulence, greed and selfishness? I could state with equal validity that our society has changed for the worse since industry became dominant, since dispensational eschatology became popular or since the invention of squeeze cheese.

      • Cheeringformoms

        Well, we can definitely say that squeeze cheese has caused some serious problems, like it being used more and more often as analogies for just about everything. Just kidding, to the point, after counseling families for over thirty years, I can definitely give my opinion that working mothers create negative change in the society that has walked into my office. I have counseled every kind of family you can name and almost in every instance where the mother is out of the home, there is lack of nurture resulting in emotional stunting. We have raised a generation of thin-skinned, low EQ citizens. Nothing comes close to having a loving, caring mother and father working together to raise a child in the way they should go. I know you must be thinking that I am reading into this, but when the children themselves mention it often enough, it becomes correlative and measurable.

        • Scott Dossett

          Are you counseling in a “ministry” environment? You must automatically recognize a bias if you are. Are you counseling the moms, the children, the husbands or all of the above? Perspective makes a world of difference. What your observations do imply is that there is a gap in the “experience” of emotional satisfaction for children and/or parents. However, felt experiences can be tricky things and while important, they often provide very little in the way of objective conclusions about the wider reality.

          For example, women will automatically feel that they are not being “nurturing enough” because of the assertions and expectations of the culture surrounding them and the sentimentality of much of contemporary “family oriented” media. Just like I, as a Dad, feel guilty and unfaithful as a parent for every single one of my kids’ events that I miss. And children can imbibe from the same media that parents who aren’t like [insert your favorite Disney parental unit] don’t really love them. But life is about sacrifice on everyone’s part, and children have to learn that as well if we want them to function in the larger community. That’s not to say that family shouldn’t be a priority. It absolutely should. But priorities must be balanced.

          The reality is that the “ideal” parenting relationship is… well… virtually impossible for those who lack the privilege of high-paying jobs. Of course, it would be sentimentally wonderful if we could spend every moment together as a family working together, learning and teaching each other. But the Amish have their problems too. ;) All ideals tend to break down in practice.

          And then, there is the whole world of people with whom we have been called to share the love and relationship of the gospel. I wonder, reading through the New Testament, how some of the Apostles and early Christian leaders would have measured up to modern “parenting theory.” Based on what I read, I doubt they would have been models for “Focus on the Family.”

          Stay-at-home-Moms have made a great choice. But there is more than one great choice.

          • Tim

            @Scott
            Please don’t take this as an offence but judging by your avatar you are pretty younge. And assuming that @cheeringformoms didn’t start counselling when he was 5 I’m going to say that he probably has a better touch on what has happened over the last 30 years. After counselling for 30 years you are going to know a bit more about perspective and bias than a young guy like yourself would. By nature of your age you already have bias because you interpret things by the presupposition you have clearly already formed and is largely informed by the environment that you grew up in. I think as young guys (I’m 34) we have to be careful about thinking we are going to correct or teach an older generation that we should be learning from. Some valid points but you have less to offer by way of chronological perspective simply because your ability to know what’s happened (because you weren’t there) and your lack of experience has limited your ability to see the past without a presupposition. You will see the past as an observer of history. This guy has experienced the past and is interpreting the present with that advantage perspective

          • http://www.facebook.com/c.scordino Christine Scordino

            Well said Tim. As you can see my avatar, I’m older. My experience with families is similar. When most Moms leave the home, the children are raised by someone else of whom they do not know their true perspective. I came home because of conviction of the Holy Spirit in many areas, that being one of them.

          • Scott Dossett

            Age and experience are important factors. However, age is not a virtue in itself. We should certainly ready to learn from those older than ourselves. I’m almost 40 by the way, but its nice to know I look young (Don’t judge a book by its cover). But we should also be willing to learn from those younger than ourselves.

            However experience has also been well recorded in research articles and books, by many who are both inside and outside the faith communities. You’ll have to forgive me if I am not persuaded by a person’s opinion merely by their age. I prefer to make my judgments – as much as possible – on sound reason and research.

          • Tim

            Fair enough, but the sound reason and research approach has its problems too. For instance, some people do all their research from a specific perspective or tradition. Or they only “trust” research from certain sources in affect discounting other sources. The point I was making is that personal experience (especially 30 years of it!) will usually outstrip most terms of research…in addition most research that is done is very narrow because it is impossible to track every variable. Experience usually deals more deeply with the variables.

            Most researchers (If honest) are not looking for just data but rather attempting to prove or disprove a theory. So again, 30 years of experience will say more than most research can. Experience in this way is less bias. But I will give you that limited contextual experience has its limitations as well. And it would be plain ignorant to suggest that every time a women chooses to enter the workforce instead of being a stay-at-home mom that it ends in disaster. That is simply not true. I think what @cheeringformoms was suggesting is that there is a traceable correlation there. There is a noticeable pattern that can’t be ignored even at the risk of being counter-cultural. Even the secular world is acknowledging this with a somewhat recent Time article. But the Bible does not prohibit it and we cannot be dogmatic about it. But I think that it’s wise to caution against it.
            Oh and some perspective…you weren’t even 10 when @cheeringformoms experience began…I was 4! I may be off base but consider almost 40 pretty young still. Maybe it’s delusionally trying to deny that I’m getting older but I’m ok with that :-)

          • Scott Dossett

            You have been kind, so I want to return the favor. Please consider what you just said: Research can be flawed because it is often done by a specific individual within a certain tradition and cannot track every variable; and many researchers may be looking to prove a point. So you’re suggesting instead that I trust a single individual’s “experience” in a specific situation from a specific tradition with a biased perspective? I trust that the point is obvious. Give me the person who is *trying* to be objective any day of the week.

            Further, If we simply take *one* set of research data, we are very likely to come up with a flawed conclusion. That’s why *lots* of people do research and we don’t take *one* person’s data as conclusive. There are many people who have had 30 years of experience in this area (I’m going to trust you know CheeringForMoms, because they didn’t say anything about 30 years) or who have culled through 30 years of research. And even if there were only one, *conclusions* based on accurate experience can still be faulty.

            I’m not saying ignore individual experience. I’m saying, keep it all in perspective. CheeringForMoms could be a gas-station attendant for all I know or simply a children’s pastor who has only counseled in the church. That would greatly affect his/her bias and/or conclusion.

      • http://www.facebook.com/c.scordino Christine Scordino

        Selfishness, greed & lack of faith in God to do as He said He will do, is what causes mother’s to leave their children with strangers so they themselves can pursue their own dreams & desires. Been there, done that. Does not work.

        • Scott Dossett

          I’ll have you know, Christine, that I have three great children – one who will soon be entering high school. My wife is a high school math teacher and I have been a software engineer, a full-time pastor and a stay-at-home Dad. So I have some measure of experience in this area myself. There is good that comes from staying at home, but there is also some incredible good that comes from sending your children to a good pre-school/child-development center. Having had children who have done both, I can say that both can yield well-adjusted, responsible young people (and who all have their own streak of depravity!). May God bless you for the decision you made to stay at home, but don’t judge everyone else because of your own experience.

          • http://www.facebook.com/c.scordino Christine Scordino

            Sorry Scott, I meant “most” mothers. And my experience, has been in all of the arenas of mothering…single, working (I justified) & stay at home. God had blessed our family because of obedience to Him…Years ago, We were going the world’s way, repented, and turned to follow His Plan in His Word. My husband had a heart transplant 4 months ago…I was there to minister to him without concern. By the way, I have 8 grandchildren & have watched the world change around me…I also have a 7 year old of my own…so I get to go around again! Your right, some children turn out OK. Some regardless of what you do, rebel…God’s Plan in His Word is for our best…we don’t have to live by it, however, there will be consequences…maybe not now, but later when they become parents…I am not judging, just giving my experience and testifying…thats all. Blessings to you and your family…

          • Scott Dossett

            My mother worked too. So… the consequence is that children of mothers who work will have children and love and care for their kids in a different way from previous generations but just as much and just as faithfully? I think I can live with that.

          • Bob

            Scott…no one is telling you that YOU are wrong. You need to consider that your experience is not the norm instead of getting defensive. Grace has been you experience…hardship, hurt and pain has been many others. For one “Scott” story that’s good there are a dozen others that are bad. Yours is not the normal experience. For that you should be very thankful.

          • Scott Dossett

            Those who insist that stay-at-home-Moms are somehow more obedient to God are creating a ridiculous guilt complex for mothers who want to provide for their families and/or make their lives significant beyond their immediate household. You are telling them that God has a problem with moms who work and disapproves of them. That is irresponsible and hurtful (despite good intentions). And you are basing that on what exactly? Scripture? Solid research? Or just your own opinion?

            And on what grounds do you claim that my experience is abnormal? Based on people I know, I’m quite solidly in the majority. Unless you can show me something verifiable, I can only conclude that you are manufacturing an entire majority of people traumatically damaged by their working mothers. I’ve seen a truckload of hardship, hurt and pain caused by church and religion too. But I’m guessing some people don’t feel as strongly about that.

    • Guest

      I hear so many people opine that society has changed for the worse over the past few decades. I think it’s a mixed bag. In many ways, frankly, I think things have gotten better. Certainly if you’re a minority of any kind, you’re less likely today to be denied a mortgage or a job based on your minority status, and overt racism in churches is far less acceptable. Fundamentalist legalism seems to be on the decline among Christians. Our kids are more interested in global justice and mercy than ever before. The culture wars have lost their appeal for millions of young evangelicals. Vibrant churches are being planted in churches and neighborhoods all across the country. Pastors are rediscovering the call to care for widows and orphans. I’m sure you can give me a list of other phenomena that would indicate social decline, but I’d argue that there are many great things going on as well. I think that nostalgia can become a sin when we become envious of the past, rather than excited for the present God has given us.

  • MrsRhondaP

    Beautiful topic! I am stay at home mom of 7 kids. I love my babies I love my husband…. BUT it’s hard at times…. I know God always take care of us… But also I know that one has to be sure for sure what they choose is best for the whole family. With Gods help only can we know without doubt… You see we have our view of things when our kids are small that may not work as they get older…. The same goes for our spouse everything and everyone is subject to change EXCEPT GOD… We need his will to be done in us and not ours alone.

  • Joe

    I once heard a wise woman say, “A woman can have it all – just not all at the same time.” Take if from a father of six, who lived in a two bedroom home so my wife be could a full-time mother and homeschool our children. You will not regret it if you make the choice to do whatever it takes to put the rearing of children as a top priority. It is not easy, but your faith is “more precious than gold” 1 Peter 1:7. What are we really working for? Many of our friends told us that they would have to make too many significant lifestyle changes (less income, smaller home, less vacations, older cars, eat out less, shop for second hand clothes, no savings, etc.) for their wife to stay home. This was true in our case, but sadly, we live in a culture hostile to God and the odds are overwhelming against your children developing a Biblical Worldview if they are “trained” in a government school. My wife is an amazingly competent and talented woman. Choose to go God’s way and He will make a way. Counter-cultural? Yes. Difficult? Yes. But the rewards are beyond anything the world can offer in return. People will live forever in one place or another. Children are only young for a very short period of time. Trust God. Seize the day. Live for the applause of Heaven.

    • Amanda

      YES!!!! and amen.

    • Guest

      I guess I just find it somewha

    • Guest

      Even though my wife and chose to have her stay home with our kids, I don’t think it’s right or fair to characterize our choice as God’s way for all families.

  • sinner saved by grace

    We reared four children. My wife taught school until the second child was born. She left employment to parent our children thereafter and didn’t return until the youngest was out of high school. Now she is a professor of education at a Christian college. It wasn’t always easy with one income. But the consequences of her being with out children during their formative years continues to expose a wide variety of blessings and godly fruit every day. What she did is now being taught and purveyed by our children to our grandchildren. That would not have happend absent our committment to personally rear our children. Its up to each family to decide what path to take. Avoid making it a decision primarily founded on money.

  • Tim

    Are they more holy? Yes….

    Just kidding. These questions are good and valid. I love it. The only caution I would give is the question of affordability. Every single family unit an live on less than they are unless we are talking 3rd world. That’s the truth 99.99% of the people that say they could not live on one salary say so because they want an iPhone with an expensive data plan, they want the bigger house, they want to go to the movies every weekend, they want the 50″ plasma…and the society tells them that they not only need that to be legit but they deserve it. Beans and rice and one car and one phone still makes you wealthier than 90% of the worlds population. The answer to the question of affordability is o course yes depending on what you are willing to live without. (For the record…I’m a pastor of a small church in a city that is one of the more expensive housing markets in North America…the average old house is $320,000 and we have 5 kids in an 1,100 sqft home and we are quite content…I make $50,000 a year and I have an iPhone :-) so I’m not knocking having these things.
    So it’s a great group of questions and how you answer them will tell you much of what the priority of your heart is. I love how she said that doing without made them have a much more generous heart. Great article!

  • Alexandra Kuykendall

    Just plain WONDERFUL! Thank you on behalf of moms everywhere.

  • Andrew

    I think you are a good writer and have great ideas. I would say, however, that when a family has children, the wife should stay home to care for them during the first few years because economically it is impractical and Biblically unwise. To begin, I think a wife can work, and it is great if she does. Your references above show that God delights in a wise and economically prudent woman. On the same side, she should not be forced to work. Working is primarily the man’s responsibility to provide and protect. In our culture, men tend to lay this burden on their wives instead of letting them feel safe by providing a healthy environment in which they can flourish. This is the principle until children come and when Titus’s word comes into effect. Practically speaking, it is shown that a household with two incomes during children is not beneficial. MNSBC did a segment where they told women that once you account for all of the added expenses of having others raise your children, the second income becomes irrelevant – which left the women in tears wondering why they were putting in so much effort. From the exegetical perspective, because the parents must take the primary role in raising their children, I have difficulty understanding how passing your children immediately to a daycare truly satisfies this principle. This is why I think that at the formative years, the child needs to spend time with the mom and dad as much as possible. At the same time, I am not going to prescribe homeschooling the whole way even though after teaching elementary for awhile, I think that there is really little reason why a parent couldn’t homeschool for a few years because public education doesn’t really offer students much until later – (And for some schools, never.) We really don’t disagree with much, but I find it important for parents to be with their children as much as possible during those first years, and I have a hard time seeing how daycare and frequent babysitters could ever be beneficial. Just something to think about.

  • Mi22Karen

    This is a wonderful article. What is funny is that we think women are only pressured to stay home. I am a mother of 5, still homeschooling 2 and many of my friends (when they are honest) want to be home with their children. It is natural. I know women who cry and agonize over leaving their child with a babysitter or daycare. The real issue is us not trusting God in whatever state we are in. I am an intelligent, degreed women and one day when my child have reached adulthood, I will step into a new segment of my life. What that will be is up to him not me. Mothering children is an important job and one needs all the help, rest, support that can be given… but its not forever.

    We can say what we’d like, but mothers entering the work force has had a devastating effect on our society. Just take a look around you… it is obvious.

  • http://www.facebook.com/c.scordino Christine Scordino

    Titus is not the only place where God speaks to Paul about womens rolls in the church community. The purpose was that these new believers lives be an unarguable testimony of righteous, loving, selfless & godly living so that the unbelievers around them would have an ear for hearing the Gospel message. Isn’t that what we as believers are called to do? Are we? Selfless for God…that means doing what He desires. I serve my husband because God wants me to…I serve my children’s needs because God wants me to. God gives me the desire, strength and whatever else I ask Him for to do this for HIM. He saved me, He deserves no less.

  • Portia

    Good morning I’m Portia from SA and my mentor sent me this article. I read most of the comments and I’m a 29 year old in a corporate environment. I love my job very much as I have no kids and husband. And above all I love God and has been a Sunday school teacher for 4 years, besides being a professional I do lots of community work. What is this fuss all about? Why are we stressing which one is right and which one is not? I’m a production of a full time mom and I thank God for it. I would not mind to be one. But I still admire working moms who knows time management. Can I be biased and bluntly say some full time mom also don’t spend quality time and find themselves trapped in doing endless house chores instead of teaching kids bible or home curriculum? I have bn staying with a single mom of 35 years two kids and she is a professional senior engineer. By 06:10 am kids have eaten porridge and bathed and she takes one to school and one transport picks her up and no matter the situation at work , come CEO or not by 16:50 she is back to receive her kids and cook and help them with homeworks and they study bible for 30 mins all of them and by 19:30 she put them to bed and at 20:00 she follows and host home cells on Wednesday. I have both perfect examples in my life. My mom never participated in my school but my dad took me to school daily and watched all my games. I’m not a. Other but a product of a full time mom. At the end without referring to any scripture it becomes a personal decision and one should not be compelled I would personally won’t mind to downgrade my life for sake of my kids but practically some husbands are not able to meet the minimum basic needs? One needs to pray and importantly be wise. Some people go back to work just before kids go to primary school and as far as I know in south Africa home schooling is not proven except for wealthy people who can afford tutors for their kids. I enjoyed this topic and it has stimulated me. Enjoy

  • Kwadwo

    An incredible write up

  • Rebecca Z

    I’ve been contemplating my response to this all afternoon, because I am so reluctant to “jump into the fray”. First of all, thank you, Aubry, for this thoughtful and well-balanced message. I appreciate your statements: “Staying home is demanding. Working is demanding. There is no easy out,” and, “So, for my personality, staying home once I had kids was the way for me to be the best mom I could be.”

    There are many, many variables in a couple’s decision about who works and who, if anyone, stays home, most of which you have outlined very clearly. I am dismayed by your readers who draw a line in the sand on the issue. Foremost for any Christian family, of course, is what God would have them do and what is best for the children along with the parents. When a woman becomes a mother, she is not released from the responsibility to care for herself and her husband. She simply adds one more person into that mix. And, just as she is responsible to care for herself and her husband, so is her husband responsible to care for himself and his wife. The same goes for the children.

    I am the mother of 18 and 24 year old daughters. I worked full-time until my first was 6 and my second was born, part-time after that, stayed at home full-time for a couple years after a move to a new state and a new role as a pastor’s family, and then went back to part-time. Each situation had its advantages and disadvantages; each has its blessing and frustrations; each was a balancing act. I was blessed with excellent caregivers who watched my children in their own homes. I was blessed with a husband who was a participative father and spouse, and who was willing to help out at home after his long days at work, knowing that my days (whether at work or at home) were equally as long. Most of all, I was blessed with friends, relatives, and fellow church members who were supportive of me no matter my situation.

    I am grateful that no one ever accused me of not following God’s will for women by working outside of our home. My husband and I did our best to raise our children in the environment that we thought was best for all of us, and we sought God throughout. Admittedly, there were occasionally situations that my children had to overcome when they were in someone else’s care; I taught them to use those situations to rely on God more completely and to become a stronger, more compassionate person. Being home with me full-time had similar ramifications at times!

    My husband and I occasionally failed as parents, as everyone will. When we did, I asked God to overcome my failures though his Spirit. I believe He has honored that request, because my daughters have become beautiful women of God. We often receive compliments about our daughters’ good qualities, and both are dedicated to their Lord; only God could have shaped them into the young women they are today. I, of course, am happy to bask in His reflected glory!

    Thanks again, Aubry, for your balanced words on this issue, and your call for a cease-fire in the mommy wars. May we all follow St. Francis of Assisi’s exhortation to…’seek not so much to be understood as to understand’.

    • Rebecca Z

      By the way, for those of you who are convinced that mothers entering the workforce is the reason for our society’s depravity…..I encourage you to read the Old Testament again. I’m not sure we’re any worse off now than we were then. Human nature is the same no matter the times.

  • Nick

    I don’t think it is wrong for a woman to work but in the overwhelming majority of cases, it is better for kids to be with at least one parent at home (at least in the formative years). Unfortunately, the society we have formed over the years has dealt a serious blow to the family unit. Besides the issue of absent parents (mostly dads), the days of working together at home are long dead for most people. I fully believe that God intended for mom and dad to raise kids together daily. Industrialization has made that very difficult. So what is the best solution for our kids? The best most people can do is sacrifice for the sake of their kids and let one parent stay home. Our kids are simply more valuable than having all the gadgets in the world. We live in a world that really doesn’t value kids anymore. People consider them a burden. All we must do to confirm this is to look at how hard people try to avoid pregnancy and how many babies Americans murder for sake of “convenience”. Instead we value work, stuff, and status over God’s call to have kids and care for them. Christians should be different. Since we already have the greatest treasure (Jesus), we value substance in the kingdom over substance in this world. Raising kids is a great work for the kingdom. We should and must give our lives away for the sake of our kids.

  • Bettue

    I worked 33 yrs. I wish I had stayed at home with my children.