5 Weapons You Need to Break Up with Porn

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We all need help in the struggle against porn. Here are 5 weapons you need today.

I haven’t posted on this topic because I wanted to make sure my content came across the right way, but because so many of you have requested I write on it, I felt compelled to finally do it.

Regardless of your relationship with porn, it’s undoubtedly a problem with today’s Christians, and I believe it will only grow to be worse unless we deliberately do something about it.

Here are some stats:

  • Fifty-four percent of Christians said they had watched pornographic material within the last year. (survey from pastors.com)
  • Forty-seven percent of Christian households said porn is a struggle in their household. (2003 focus on the family survey)

Pretty crazy, huh?

This post is going to a broad guideline to help you, a friend or a family member abstain from the harm and affliction of porn. And, regardless if you have a problem with it or not, it can still be used as a precautionary foundation for your future.

5 ways to help you break up with pornography:

1. Study Scripture to understand God’s yearning for us to be pure by abstaining from fleshly desires.

1 Thessalonians 4:3, 1 Corinthians 6:18, Matthew 5:28, Ephesians 5:5, Colossians 3:5, 1 Peter 2:11.

2. Install accountability software onto any device that gives you Internet access.

www.XXXChurch.com offers a free software that is available for most platforms.

3. Keep your computer somewhere people can see it and not behind a closed door.

Boredom is Satan’s playground, and a closed door doesn’t help.

4. Give yourself limitations as to when you are to be online.

Everyone has a different schedule, but try and disconnect from all online platforms about two to three hours before you go to sleep.

5. Do not put a password on your smartphone, tablet or laptop. Keep your devices open for accountability.

Having a password gives you the comfort of looking at pornographic material and not worrying whether people will find out. This is exactly opposite of what you should be doing.

I hope these five points help you with your struggle. There are plenty of things other than this post to help you along your struggle with porn, but I pray this post will resonate with you in a way that is transforming and life-changing.

Be honest about your struggle. Don’t let porn obstruct your potential with Christ.  

Jarrid  Wilson Husband, Pastor, Author. Relentlessly sharing the love of Jesus.

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  • Scott Dossett

    I’m telling you this right now. If you struggle (or have struggled) with porn, all these ideas are temporary solutions to a permanent problem. This is like crate-training your dog and then expecting him/her not to bolt when they go outside. It only works as long as your technological/physical “checks” are in place or until you are unable circumvent them. Lust (whatever form it takes) is a creative impulse.

    Here are some other thoughts:

    1. If you’re married, spend time with your spouse. Emotionally empty married sex isn’t much better than porn.

    2. Every time you see a woman in pornographic images (whatever your definition of pornography is), train yourself to remember that she is someone’s daughter, sister, mother. Read a little about the life women in the porn industry endure. Remember that they are God’s children, many of whom are being manipulated and exploited.

    3. Addiction to pornography is very often (I would say almost always) a way of dealing with loneliness, broken relationships, fear and insecurity (like every other addiction). Be honest and identify what’s broken down inside, look for people who will love you and affirm you.

    4. DO NOT become part of an “accountability group” unless it is a group of people who will absolutely love and accept and forgive you no matter what. If there is anything “held over your head” for “sinning,” you are very likely to simply hide your actions and enter into a shame and guilt based feedback loop – the shame and guilt driving you back to pornography. You’ll be worse in the end than you were in the beginning.

    5. Find other things and people you love and enjoy spending time with. Leaving pornography behind is a healing process and you need all the support you can get.

    6. Acknowledge and accept God’s unconditional acceptance and love. That’s not an excuse to act out, it’s a reminder that God loves us in the middle of our failures as much as in our successes.

    7. When you fall, get back up and leave the guilt trip on the ground. Don’t let anyone speak guilt and shame into your life. Move forward in faith and forgiveness.

    • Islanderwaab

      Thanks Scott! Great addition (very practical) to what Jarrid Wilson wrote. “God bless!

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