The Best Thing You Can Do to Turn Your Marriage Around

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It does not matter if you have been married 20 months or 20 years, there is always a good reason to learn what makes a marriage work.

A few years ago, I went to traffic school.

This may have had something to do with my driving. Let’s just say attendance was not optional and leave it at that.

I drive every day. (It ‘s a California thing.) I rely on my driving skill for my work, my family and my life.

I thought I knew all I needed to know about driving, but soon after the class started I was surprised to discover just how many things I did not know or had forgotten.

What is the difference between a double yellow line and a broken white line?

How many feet before an intersection should you signal?

What do all these different traffic signs mean?

Did you know having a driver’s license is a privilege and not a right? I’m pretty sure I had not thought of that prior to traffic school.

If I wanted to pass the test at the end of the class, I needed to know these answers.

What if married couples had to take a quiz every five years in order to renew our marriage licenses? Would we remember:

  • What we are supposed to be doing?
  • How to avoid unnecessary conflict? How to resolve differences?
  • What it means to love unconditionally?

Would we remember trust is a privilege and not a right?

How well would we recognize all the different signs?

It does not matter if you have been married 20 months or 20 years, there is always a good reason to learn what makes a marriage work.

Whether you are here because you have run a few red lights in your relationship, or because it is a total wreck, I want to welcome you and offer you this simple encouragement:

You can turn your marriage around!  

Philip Wagner Philip Wagner is Lead Pastor of Oasis Church in Los Angeles and founder of Oasis is an innovative and racially diverse church, largely comprised of people in their 20’s & 30’s. Oasis is known for its local and global outreach to the impoverished; especially orphans and widows, and funding clean water projects. Philip and his wife, Holly, started Oasis in 1984, in Beverly Hills with10 people. Today they’ve grown to 3000+ members.

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  • AMOS8

    “What have you learned to do that turned your marriage around?”

    The first thing I did was to stop reading the trendy books by trendy Christian authors/people. You might be surprised at how that one thing can help you avoid great confusion and destruction.

    The second thing I did was to go to God and His Word.