Honest Thoughts on Life as a Pastor’s Kid

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An inside look at life and ministry from a PK who's been there.

For 26 years I have been a PK (PK= Pastor’s Kid).

I have watched my dad closely over the years as he has moved from youth pastor to church planter to senior pastor.

Through the years I got an inside look into ministry and took lots of notes during the journey.

So here are some lessons I learned from being a PK:

1. Actions Affect More Than Yourself.

It appears to me everyone is born with the same “me-myself-and I” mentality. It is like we are the stars of our own show and everyone else are just extras.

Being a PK made it loud and clear this life is not to be lived selfishly.

When myself or my siblings would sneak into the baptismal pool, run around the church or play pranks on other church members, my dad would hear about it and would have to deal with our mishaps. Our actions affected him and my mother.

So even though we are all guilty of living selfishly, I learned when I only think about myself, the consequences tend to trickle out to other people in my life.

2. People Watch and Wait for Failure.

In high school I was really involved in our church’s youth group. Anytime there was a youth event I was there. More often than not, I’d help carpool students to events.

One day, in my sweet Ford Probe, I dropped a younger girl off at her house. Not two minutes later did I get a phone call from my dad asking me if I was smoking in my car.

Really? Me smoke? I’m 17 and at a youth event.

Turns out, I was eating an apple caramel lollipop when I had dropped the young girl off. The mom looked out the window and saw the white stick coming out of my mouth and assumed I was smoking and gave my dad a call.

I wasn’t angry at that mom. But many moments after that in my life taught me the world is watching us a Christians. And they wait and hope for the moments when we fail. 

As Christians we must live above reproach, because we never know who is watching us and how we may unintentionally harm the image of Christ. 

Sarah Weber I try to live my life pleasing to the Lord. Marketing strategist for d2design. Excited that retirement isn't an option for Christians.

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  • Abby_M

    Story of my life. Good thing God is indeed bigger than us. :)

  • RickiBrooks

    I’m the Dad of three grown PK’s. They too could write a bunch. Thank you so much for opening this door. It is a much needed discussion.

  • sistert

    Been there, done that. My brother and I peeled out in the family car, went straight home approximately three blocks away and our parents already knew what we had done. It’s a blessing and a curse. A curse because we could never get away with anything and a blessing because it probably kept us from doing worse things.

  • Rev John Jackson

    Thank you. Your article made me smile and also think again. I was a PK and now am a father of PKs. So much of what you said is so true that I had said I would never inflict the life of a PK on my children when I had them. God had different plans! I am blessed that my wife is wonderfully more appreciative of their needs than I and brings a balance to the whole issue. They understand that they are constantly being observed and are known by more people than they know (We live in the same city as my father!) However at all times they are taught to be true to themselves and God – not everyone is going to like what you do, what you wear, your friends or your parents


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