4. Don't make your family pay.
I know a pastor who went through a hellified business meeting. His wife was at home praying for him throughout the meeting.
He came home, and when she asked how it went, he proceeded to curse her out and beat her up. When taken to the hospital and the doctor was examining her, he asked her what happened and she said, “He couldn’t beat them, so he beat me.”
Pastors must make sure to draw a line in the concrete, not in the sand, that no matter how angry the parishioners make you, you don’t make your wife or your children or even your pets become surrogates for your anger.
The spouse has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with your fight.
Your children have ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with your fight.
When its all over, you wind up with a bigger scandal on your hands than before.
If you feel a need to strike or hit someone—hit the books.
If you feel a need to step to someone, step to the Lord in prayer. If you feel the the need to curse someone out, get in a room BY YOURSELF, grab a mirror and CURSE YOUR OWN DAG-GUM SELF OUT.
Get it all out of your system, and love the family God has blessed you with.
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