5. Get a life.
I don’t mean any harm but many pastors are just ... pastors. They have no hobbies. They have no interests.
They are pastors 24/7, 365 days a year—and there’s nothing wrong with that, except you need some time to yourself.
You need to grow as an individual. You need some interests. I’ve seen pastors whom you couldn’t talk about football because that’s “unholy.” Or talk to them about jazz because “that’s the devil’s music.”
Every pastor needs an interest outside of the church. For me, it ranges from travel to sports to politics to horseback riding to movies to cooking to architecture.
When I was in San Diego, one of my best friends was (is) Dr. A.B. Vines. Vines was a pastor in the community, and both of our churches were rapidly growing, even though we had different backgrounds. I was National Baptist, he was Southern Baptist bred. He’s from the East Coast, I’m from the West Coast. He had kids growing up in his house, I didn’t. I was a hooper, He was a lecturer.
We were (are) best friends. We would call each other on Sunday nights to compare notes on how our services went, and we were competitive with each other, but in a non-threatening way. We would laugh about the craziest things. However, we were movie fans, and we would go to opening nights of movies together and hang out.
I remember one night we went to see Star Wars Episode III on opening night, and we were dressed casually as we sat among Princess Leia and several Wookies and Chewbacas. You cannot keep your sanity without having an outside interest.
So get a life—learn how to swim, learn how to play the piano, drive in the country. But please, get a life.
I hope this will help some pastor, somewhere to keep cool when others are losing their minds.
"Don't ever be so foolish as to measure Jesus' compassion for you in terms of your compassion for one another."
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