Better Public Speaking: How to Deal with… Umm… Speech Fillers

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We all struggle with speech fillers. 4 steps to overcome them.

Umm … Lord, we just … you know … (lip smack) … Father God … uhh … and we just … Father God … (lipsmack) … umm … Lord, we just … uhh … (deep breath) … you know … Father God … umm … you know … that we all have them.

They come in different shapes, sizes and expressions, but we all have them.

Those who claimed to have never had them are in denial and probably are still unaware they have them. Those polished, seasoned preachers who appear to have none of them once did.

They are such a part of our natural communication style that they can be difficult to identify and overcome, but there is hope.

Here are a few ways I have tried to face my own unnecessary speech fillers and helped others identify and overcome their own:

1. Create an environment in your local church to be critiqued.

Whether it is someone preaching, praying or leading a public gathering in our church, we have tried to create an atmosphere of humility and teachability in regard to each of us growing in these areas. This kind of effort can become hyper-critical and unhelpful very quickly, so we want to always maintain a spirit of grace and patience in this process.

A service review with those involved in the service has been a great way for us to facilitate these discussions where men come with a desire to grow. See these previous posts for more info on the purpose and process of a Service Review. If you have someone unconvinced of what you have observed, the next best option is to mention it to them, then challenge them to go back and listen to their own sermon in light of it.

2. Ask those you trust to listen and give feedback.

If a culture is not present to already be listening for these things, approach a few godly, gracious but wise and discerning men to try to observe you in these roles and see if they notice what your fillers are. It is amazing how noticeable they are when someone tries casually to listen for them for your benefit.

3. Receive the thoughts of others with humility.

We had a service review where it was brought to a man’s attention who had prayed that morning of an obvious repeated phrase he uses, of which he was completely unaware of. He was surprised, it was affirmed by a few other men in the room, but he received it with humility and began to consider the thoughts of others.

So he did what most men do when they hear a critique they are oblivious to—he asked he wife later that night, “Hey, have you ever noticed that I repeat this phrase in my prayers?” His wife’s response was, “Yeah, you do it all the time.” He was amazed he had not observed in his own life what others so clearly saw. He received that very well and quickly developed desires to improve on it.

4. Try to prepare knowing which fillers you struggle with.

Although this man was totally unaware of his unnecessary speech filler that had existed for a long time, he modeled how someone should respond to it. He received it in humility and teachability, then he instantly made efforts to try to overcome it. The very next time he prayed publicly, he cut his use of this filler at least in half. He hardly used it at all in his next sermon he preached at our church. It is amazing the progress we can make over our unnecessary speech fillers once we own them and begin to focus on working ourselves out of them.

I have watched these kinds of successes through the years. We really can make progress on these matters, but we must be aware of them, own them, then, without putting too much focus on them, try to cut them out of our prayers and sermons, realizing perfect oratory skills is far from the goal as we preach God’s word and lead God’s people.

However, that does not mean we should not try to grow in all aspects of our preaching and public leading, including this one. My biggest speech filler for years was, “Umm.” Although it still shows up most of the time in my casual conversations, this formula has been very helpful to me personally through the years.

So, own it.

What was or is your greatest unnecessary speech filler?  

Brian Croft Brian Croft is senior pastor of Auburndale Baptist Church in Louisville, Kentucky. He is also the author of "Visit the Sick: Ministering God’s Grace in Times of Illness (foreword by Mark Dever) and "Test, Train, Affirm, and Send Into Ministry: Recovering the Local Church’s Responsibility to the External Call" (foreword by R. Albert Mohler Jr.). Brian blogs regularly at Practical Shepherding.

More from Brian Croft or visit Brian at http://practicalshepherding.com/

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