God’s Will Through Wisdom and Holiness.
In Ephesians 5:15-17, Paul teaches Christians that wise living is God’s will for us:
“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise, but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.” (Eph. 5:15-17)
A fair question to ask cohabiting couples is, “What is God’s will for your life regarding your relationship and living arrangement?”
Some questions to ask couples to help them make wise decisions based on God’s will in their life and relationship:
- Based on the Scripture we have read together, what do you think God’s will isn’t for your living arrangement?
- Based on Scripture we have read together, and even secular research, do you believe it is a wise and holy decision to continue living together? Why or why not?
- Is your situation unique? Does it fall outside of God’s clear will for life and relationships as described biblically?
- What needs to change? How can we help you?
Emphasize that we don’t know for sure what God’s will is for them (Will they get married? Should they move out right away?), but help them to see what God’s will isn’t for them (cohabitation) because that isn’t living wisely in holiness and doesn’t meet God’s design for marriage and relationships between men and women.
