People Are Not Looking for a Friendly Church


Aren't people looking for a friendly church? Josh Hunt says no, and Rick Warren backs him up.

The reason is, as Rick Warren puts it, “People are not looking for a friendly church; they are looking for friends.” A guy at our local mall helped me to understand the difference. He was working at one of those little kiosks selling electronic gizmos and gadgets. He surprised me when he called me by name. He didn’t look even vaguely familiar to me.

“Are you Josh Hunt?” he asked.

“I am sorry; you have me at a bit of a disadvantage. I am sure I should remember your name, but I am really spacey,” I replied.

“Oh, I wouldn’t expect you to remember me. I used to attend your church but I don’t attend church anymore,” he said. Then he really surprised me. He asked, “Would you like to know why? Would you like to know why I don’t attend church anymore?”

Let me ask you the same question: Would you like to know why? Would you like to know the reason why this guy doesn’t attend church anymore?

Very bluntly stated he said, “People are only nice to you at church.”

It wasn’t enough for him. It wasn’t enough that we declared a message about a God who loved him. He wanted people to love him too. It wasn’t enough that we told him about how he could have a friend in Jesus. He wanted human friends as well. It is not enough to just deliver content about a God who loves; we must represent God. That is, we must help people to feel from us what God feels about them — love.  

Josh Hunt Josh Hunt loves small groups. He travels extensively training group leaders. He has spoken in some of America's leading churches including First Baptist Church Atlanta and Thomas Road Baptist Church, Lynchburg, VA. He has written several books on group life including You Can Double Your Class in Two Years or Less, Disciplemaking Teachers and Make Your Group Grow. He writes a popular online curriculum called Good Questions Have Groups Talking. His website is

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