There is much debate today concerning the role as well as the title of a person who shepherds a micro-Christian community, a small group. Some small group pastors have concluded that a “host” is what is necessary, someone to open their home, have some snacks, and see that each aspect of the small group meeting is experienced. And according to the culture that many churches are in and the goals they have for each group, this is a viable and effective point person for a small group.
Some other churches have raised the bar far beyond that of a host. These churches have as their goal to have each group led by a “leader,” an individual who would be perceived as the pastor of the small congregation that is their small group. In most of these churches it is also the responsibility of the leader to create a leader.
So, how should a small group point person go about helping leaders make leaders who effectively carry out expectations this grandiose? A few suggestions:
1. Make each small group leader aware of this expectation when recruiting them to be a leader. If this requirement is thrown at them after they have been recruited the small group leader may never embrace the opportunity they’ve been given.
2. Make each small group leader aware that the most important role they fill in making a future leader is to be a model for that person.
3. Each small group leader should make the apprentice they choose aware of the role they are learning to carry out. The apprentice needs to know that the bar is much higher than teaching a class or being a host, that they are going to learn to be a leader and that this will require being willing to do what is necessary to learn leadership.
4. Educate the small group leader concerning how to teach skills. Learning a new skill requires a method that works. I would suggest teaching your small group leaders to, 1) Model the skill, 2) Let the learner try it while the teacher watches, 3) The teacher affirms them for what they did well then once again models what wasn’t done correctly, 4) The learner carries out the skill again while the teacher watches, 5) The teacher affirms them for what they did well then once again models what wasn’t done correctly, etc… Practices 3 – 5 are repeated until the learner gets it right then the teacher sets them free to do this skill on their own.
5. Create opportunities for group learning experiences, apprentice alongside the leader who is training them. Do this during huddle meetings, set aside specific training experiences for this, or take leaders and apprentices together to a small group conference.
6. Encourage small group leaders to give more and more opportunity to the apprentice to lead during small group meetings. Be sure that small group leaders know the importance of the meeting after the meeting. They should meet with the apprentice following the meeting or in the next few days to affirm them for what they did well and graciously point out what they could do better and how to do that better.
7. Give the small group leader and apprentice books written with the small group leader in mind to read that will help them on their journey together. A few suggestions would be, How to Lead Small Groups, Simple Small Groups, Leading Life-Changing Small Groups, How to Lead a Great Cell Group Meeting, Destination Community: Small Group Ministry Manual.
The Lord is at work redeeming and sanctifying a people for Himself.