40 Positive Reasons to Avoid Porn

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One of the ways we experience grace is by recognizing the positive power of pure choices.

Over my 24 years of pastoral ministry, I’ve had the occasion to work with multiplied hundreds of men who struggle on a regular basis with the snare of pornography.

I often say that the hardest thing about the Christian life is that it is so daily.   I have learned that the  hardest thing about the battle with lust and pornography is that it is so hourly.  Yet,  the battle can be won – one life, one day. one hour, one decision and one thought at a time.

Titus 2:11-12 challenges us to recognize that that grace of God instructs us to “deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously and godly in the present age.”  One of the ways we experience this grace is by recognizing the positive power of pure choices.  

In my book, Think Before You Look – Avoiding the Consequences of Secret Temptation I present forty chapters, each presenting positive reasons to avoid the snare of pornography.  Here they are in summary as a positive does of pure prevention.

1.
 I fully enjoy the pleasure of my love relationship with Christ.

2. I fulfill my true identity as a child of God.

3. I experience God’s provision of empowering grace.

4. I enjoy my freedom in Christ to its fullest.

5. I avoid a life-pattern of deception.

6. I cultivate a soft and sensitive conscience.

7. I turn away from the solicitation of harlots in my heart.

8. I refuse the temptation of idolatry.

9. I prove to be a faithful steward of my money.

10. I prove to be a faithful steward of my time.

11. I abstain from any promotion and support of the pornography industry.

12. I preserve God’s gift of loving sexual expression for its intended purpose.

13. I protect the purity and power of my God-given imagination.

14. I develop disciplined character.

15. I guard the integrity of my Christian testimony.

16. I promote health and harmony in the body of Christ.

17. I cultivate a stronger resistance to future interpersonal sexual sin.

18. I nurture the proper biblical view of the sanctity of womanhood.

19. I relate to women as equals and persons of ultimate worth.

20. I learn to live in reality rather than fantasy.

21. I steer clear of unnecessary personal guilt and shame.

22. I cultivate a lifestyle of contentment and satisfaction.

23. I experience the blessing of living as a servant

24. I learn the relational skills of authentic intimacy.

25. I avoid future mental, emotional and spiritual scars on my life.

26. I experience the joy of the Christian life.

27. I lay up eternal rewards.

28. I learn to deal with the causes of my problems rather than treating symptoms.

29. I prevent potential temptations for others in my sphere of influence.

30. I honor the trust and prayer support of those who have invested in my spiritual life.


If I am married: 

31. I avoid adultery in my heart.

32. I encourage my wife’s trust.

33. I honor my vow of marital purity and faithfulness.

34. I keep my marriage union pure from fantasies of other women.

35. I communicate acceptance and honor toward my wife.

36. I avoid the pathway that could easily result in infidelity.


If I have children:

37. I minimize the risk of my children being exposed to pornography.

38. I model strong and genuine moral values for my children.

39. I avoid embarrassing and embittering my children.

40. I encourage all of the above positive qualities in their lives.

(The 40 reasons are presented in complete form in Daniel Henderson’s book, Think Before You Look – Avoiding the Consequences of Secret Temptation.)

Daniel Henderson is president and founder of Strategic Renewal which exists to ignite the heart of the church through personal renewal, congregational revival and leadership restoration for Christ’s glory. As a Senior Pastor for over two decades, Daniel Henderson brought prayer-based revitalization to several mega-churches. Along with Jim Cymbala and dozens of other pastors, he recently launched a national fellowship for pastors focused on the priorities of Acts 6:4, “prayer and the ministry of the word.”

More from Daniel Henderson or visit Daniel at http://www.64fellowship.com

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  • http://blog.cyberquill.com/ Cyberquill

    The most important practical reason to avoid porn is missing from the list: online porn is notoriously virus-infested. You click on the wrong picture, and next thing you know you’ve got a Trojan on your machine that messes up your whole registry. 

    • Cliff

      That’s spiritual.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1552932350 Phil Ludos

      Really that’s the most important reason, seriously???? Probably will get backlash on this site for this comment but.

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  • B.A.

    I wish all the porn would burn in this age.It is a disease.It objectifies women and that few seconds of “feeling” is not worth anything.God help a man who thought he would NEVER look at it and turn from your word.How mistaken I can be and all I want to do is give my life to my God.I pray for His strength,forgiveness,and love to help a lonely man overcome.I don’t even understand why I look,because I have NO desire whatsoever to be with these women.i want to be cleansed because I love Jesus my LORD and people.

  • Gideon

    it’s deadly

  • JR Furic

    It replaces relational joy in your life with a counterfeit pleasure and short cuts your ability to enjoy a meaningful relationship. It’s like eating your desert before your meal. You’re simply not hungry for a meaningful relationship after you’ve obtained your high from porn. Eventually it will consume your life, as any other addiction would.

  • sonny

    its ok saying how looking at porn robs you of a loving relationship but what about those of us who are not in a relationship for one reason or another and suffer loneliness and bordem. i am a christian who sometimes views porn. and i hear so much about women being degraded but isnt it women who are predominantly displaying themselves on the internet in the first place these women need to look at themselves and realise why they allow themselves to be photographed in this way

    • jay

      nope. you claiming to a christian man comes with various implications as well. this includes the pursuit of righteousness and you need to realize that viewing porn is a sin. it’s under the category of sexual immorality (Col 3) and we both know God detests sin. Although women are portraying themselves in such a way in pornography, these are things of the world and we are to set our minds on things above, ie. pursuing holiness. don’t shift the blame completely on women, especially women who are not involved in pornography. you have a responsibility yourself to flee these passions of yours (2 tim 2:22)

  • Anonymous

    I need help.

  • Jason

    I need help too but I think it’s too late for me. I’m in too deep, my mind is too twisted. Wish I had never looked at that first picture four decades ago. I post simply to warn those that are young and have just started looking…stop now and save your life.

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